Seeing is believing?


There is an old adage that “seeing is believing.” With this adage, it is customary that for a person to believe something, there must be some sort of visual proof.  Yet our world is filled with many unexplained phenomena and spiritual truths that only a well-tuned eye will see.  This well-tuned eye must possess an element of faith.

As an intimacy anorexics (IAs), we have allowed doubt and cynicism to dominate the way we think and view the world. We know that we lie, and thus we doubt that others are telling the truth. Our own failures are obvious to us, and thus we don’t trust the actions of others either.

Anorexics carry this lack of faith and trust into our relationship with God. We can’t see or touch God, so we don’t believe He has the power to change our lives. The Apostle Thomas illustrated this in his response to the resurrected Christ. Although he had walked with Christ for several years and listened to the teachings of Jesus on a daily basis, Thomas still doubted when told that Christ was alive after the crucifixion. Thomas wanted physical proof that Jesus was alive. (John 20:25)

Many of us who struggle with addictions do so because of a lack faith.  Faith that something unseen exists and that this unseen has power to change our lives.

“Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” -  Step 2

The second step in a 12-step recovery program requires that the IA come to believe in a higher power. This higher power is a spiritual being; a being not constrained by the physical, as we humans are. This spiritual being is capable and willing to restore us to sanity – a healthy, productive, connected life. This higher power is the one true God, who sent His one and only Son, Jesus Christ, to save us.

Without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.    Hebrews 11:6

Christ calls us to faith – to believe and take action without physical evidence. This faith rests in a conviction that Christ is who he claims to be, and faith that he is able to touch and restore the lives of all men who diligently seek him.

In this walk to freedom from anorexia and addiction, we must earnestly seek God and wholeheartedly believe that He can and will heal us.  The intimacy anorexic who wants “sanity” restored in their life must take the first step in faith.  After taking the first step, we must continue to walk each day along the path of faith.  Our actions, the small decisions we make each day along the way, must reflect this growing faith.  A faith in a God who is greater than what we can see and hear and touch.  A God who is a marvelous and infinite spiritual being, but also a God who loves so much that he sent his Son to earth to live and die amongst us.

Jesus said to him, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.”    John 20:29

Hiking with my friend


Yesterday we had 10” of snow here in Colorado Springs. The mountains looked beautiful dressed in white. I had to get out and hike my favorite trail. With all that fresh, wet snow (when it stopped snowing, the temperature had risen above freezing), I realized that this hike was going to be a bit more […]

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Setting captives free

setting captives free

At the onset of His earthly ministry, Jesus made a very clear statement of His mission and purpose. Quoting from the prophet Isaiah, Jesus stated what He was about to do and how His life fulfilled this ancient prophecy. The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good […]

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Dealing with strong emotions


God created us in His image. This image includes our emotions and desires. Emotions are a part of our human experience, a gift from God. Emotions are an essential aspect of being human.  Some emotions are pleasant and welcome: happiness, joy, contentment, while others hit us like waves on the rocks: grief, anger, or shame. The […]

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Should I admit I have a problem?


If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. I John 1:9 Admitting our faults, flaws, and wrong behavior is a difficult thing. As men, we want to be seen in a good light. We want to be perceived as strong. We […]

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Weak and selfish

weak and selfish

I was listening to a friend in recovery discussing what he had recently learned and one of his phrases caught my attention. He described his past behavior as “weak and selfish.” I jotted it down and meditated on that phrase.  It is poignant. “Weak and selfish” aptly characterizes men living in addiction. An addict is weak, not […]

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Our thoughts

our thoughts

Recently I was watching an old science fiction television show. During the episode, the intrepid crew of our technologically advanced space ship was visiting an alien planet. During the visit with this alien civilization, one of the crew members was arrested for having “evil thoughts”. This alien species had laws not only against evil behavior […]

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Last week I introduced the concept of intimacy anorexia. To follow up on that subject, this week I will discuss shame.  Many intimacy anorexics and those recovering from addiction unnecessarily suffer with immense shame. I have known many men who have come to realize their wrongful ways and are  overwhelmed with the burden of shame […]

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Intimacy anorexia


So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.    Genesis 1:27 And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of […]

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Itching ears

itching ears

“Itching ears” – whenever I read that expression in Scriptures it piques my curiosity. It is an interesting metaphor. When our physical ears itch, we have an immediate, and almost instinctive desire to reach up and scratch that itch. Itching ears quickly draw our attention, yet rarely is an itching ear a serious health crisis. This […]

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