Sudden grief


This afternoon I cried.

I cried for a long time.

I cried big, wet, drippy tears.

I cried to grieve the loss of another life.

I cried for a child that died over 30 years ago.

I cried for a child who never had a chance to breath.

I cried for two young people compelled to make such a decision.

I cried for an inconvenient child, even though it had a heart beat and soul.

For the first time in my life, I cried for an unborn child taken away from us.

Earlier today, a friend related an account of an early time in his life.  He was a healthy, rambunctious young man.  His girlfriend was pregnant.  In his youthful naiveté and selfishness, he encouraged her to abort the child.  She did.

It was a wrong choice that my friend regrets these many decades later.

This account rested heavy on my soul.  Later, as I thought about this tragic event, tears rolled down my cheeks for a child who never lived and for two young adults who made the most expedient decision.  This child was never given the chance to live.  If so, he or she would be about 30 years old today; old enough to start his or her own family.

It grieved me.

I have opposed abortion for my entire adult life.  However, this is the first time the thought of it hit my emotions so powerfully.

I grieve the loss of this life, my friend’s child, and the parents that never were. 

This reminds me that The Hill of Beans is all about seeking clarity in what truly matters in this crazy world – the short, vulnerable, precious lives of each and every one of us.   And yes, the crazy lives of two unmarried, young adults who are not ready to be parents is a compelling factor.  It is not compelling enough to require the death of a child.

Each person has been created for a special, unique, and beautiful life.  No matter what the circumstances, each child has value.  Life should never be cut short just because it is convenient thing to do.

Then people brought little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked them.   Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”  When he had placed his hands on them, he went on from there.  Matthew 19:14-15 (NIV)

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